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Subject:Fighting Stereotypes within our own community
Time:02:03 pm
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I have recently been reading communities about pagan parenting and alternative parenting and find one commonality to be very disturbing.

As pagans, I would like to think that most of us are intelligent and have open minds. Am I being naive?

I have found that there are many people who accept stereotype as 'normal' or who dont even think twice about it. Is this because people dont look or is it because people are not trained to look for it? Is it laziness and apathy? Reading stories to children about Witches riding around on broomsticks, wearing pointed black hats and casting spells on evil-doers is promoting a stereotype image of a Witch that, personally, I do not want to encourage. If this were an image of a Native American wearing nothing but a deerskin tunic and a feather headdress, there would be outrage at the lack of cultural sensitivity and promotion of ethnic stereotype.

Based in the same concept, seems to be the opinion that we should expose our children to all religions, faiths and cultures...all except Christianity. Are we afraid, as pagans and witches, that our children will be 'turned'? Are we so intolerant that we would disallow our children to learn about Christianity because thats the 'bad' religion? Or is our own faith so slight that we cannot hold our own?

Maybe it is because I was never really 'in the broom closet' so I cant really relate to people's fear of being found out. I just wonder about the compromises we make and what they teach our kids. To me, it seems we are teaching them that it is something to be kept hidden, or to be ashamed of. It is beyond me how a family can claim to be pagan and still celebrate Christmas because they dont want their children to know they're pagan. Is it just me or does this not make sense??
Maybe I am completely wrong and have misinterpreted it, but it seems that we are not really teaching our kids anything when we hide, promote or encourage stereotypes, and live contrary to our beliefs. Its that whole "do what I say, not what I do" Makes me wonder if some people really believe, or is it just the cool thing to be...

or...maybe Im confused just cuz Im Canadian ;)

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Time:2006-04-20 07:34 pm (UTC)
Well, the OP is painting the concepts in her post with a pretty broad brush. There's no getting away from stereotypes. Once they become dysfunctional, reactionary stances against the dysfunctional type are counterproductive. They largely serve to reinforce the original belief, because they (latently) acknowledge the context of the belief.

In other words, the only way to beat a stereotype is to ignore it. To be what you are, to exist outside the framework the stereotype tries to assert. As long as you try to interact with a mistaken stereotype, even if you're opposed to it, you're still looking at an assimilation of information technique. What has to happen is accomodation -- and that only occurs if the data set falls enough outside the parameters that assimilation isn't possible.

On the other thing, faith being the province of adults. Um. Kids don't have "faith" naturally. Faith is a reaction to a complex set of abstractions. It is, by definition, all about the intangible. Children deal with tangiblles and concete thinking. That's a big job. That takes years to develop. I don't think it's wise or kind to offer a child trying to learn the pragmatics of how the world works an abstract, intangible explanation. The best they can do with it is turn it into concrete examples or rules -- which, imnsho, serves no one. It's not until the body and brain start to do the conversion to adulthood that their brains are ready to produce the bigger questions that drive people's faith.

I see no reason whatsoever that my answers should be provided before the kids think to ask the question. That seems entirely unproductive.
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